My friend Sara and I were very different in some ways but we made it work. Our political viewpoints were opposite. Our religious beliefs were also different. We had much in common, however.
We both loved nature & going for long hikes with deep conversations ensuing.
We loved savoring a cup of herbal tea & more deep conversation.
We enjoyed the same book series and would often engage in length discussions over what we “got” out of the stories, how we were each affected by them.
We enjoyed summer days spent lolling on a local beach, watching our girls play in the sand and sea.
We shared our hurts. We shared our hopes & dreams. We cheered each other on and encouraged one another.
She listened to me as I unburdened my soul to her regarding issues with my mother and her nursing home care. She, being a Social Worker, helped us tremendously through the red tape and paperwork, etc. that goes along with long term care/end of life issues.
We shared our mutual marital ups and downs – lost jobs, low lobster prices, high cost of living in Maine.
We shared many smiles, much laughter, many tears.
All that came to an end last Wednesday at 10:30 am when she was in a head-on collision and killed. She was on her way to her first day of work as a Social Worker at a local nursing home. She had just emailed me a few days previous asking if I would be a referral for her, should the nursing home need that. Of course, I happily said yes. That was our last conversation.
A couple weeks before that, she had “out of the blue” messaged me on FB. We hadn’t chatted for a few months. It was the typical “how are things and let’s plan on getting together soon” kind of thing. “Let’s go for a hike up the mountain, it’s probably not too cold”. In that few minutes of messaging we reconnected as we always did, and left off with ((hugs)) and <3 <3 . I will not delete that message stream.
This has made me reconsider my own life, how am I spending my days? If today were my last, would my family know how much I love them? Or have I spent way too much time checking things off my To Do List and putting off spending time loving on my family??
Don’t let the To Do List get in the way of what is truly important. Don’t say “someday”. Someday might never come. Make the plans and follow through – do it! Go on the camping trip. Go on the cruise. Make that Bucket List and then figure out a way to make it happen.
One last thing. Sara’s friends have created a Go Fund Me page for her final expenses, repayment of her student loan (she just got her Master’s in Social Work a couple years ago) and for her daughter’s education. If you feel so inclined, please give whatever you can. I know her family will appreciate it, as will her countless friends, this one included. Click here to view her Page and to donate.
“What would our lives look like if we really did live with our life’s brevity at the forefront of our mind? Would we pursue the temporary, or would we pursue the eternal?” Julie Manning
I miss you Sara! ((hugs)) and <3 <3